3 Things I Learned at a Fondue Party

Women thrive on inspiration and ideas.

Gather a group of women together and it’s only time until someone starts sharing about a new skincare routine or how to quiet a colicky baby. All ears in. The questions begin. “Does anyone have a quick dinner recipe?” “How do I get pet stains from the carpet?” "What book are you reading?" “I just started Whole30 and feel like I’m dying—any tips?” We want answers; inspiration to our daily conundrums. Life hacks to mix up our routine. It’s therapeutic yet productive at the same time. I leave those brainstorming sessions with more (recipes and) gumption for life.

 

We need to be reminded that we're not alone.

"You mean, I’m not the only one who can’t figure out how to curl my hair right?" or "You hate running too?" or "Marriage is hard for you too?" There is a major part of us that yearns for genuine friendship with other women. We desperately need time outside our four walls to ground us again in this common reality: we are all women. All in the same boat. Sure, different stages of life, backgrounds, personalities, and issues. But we all need hope when we feel hopeless, a pick-me-up when we’re down, a hug when we need to feel accepted. We need to feel like our problems aren’t the only problems in the world. We need to be reminded that we are not alone. No matter how many times the lie deceives us—we’re not alone.

We think everyone is cooler than us.

Have you ever had an acquaintance who you’ve admired from afar, thinking of how you could be best friends if only you were as cool as her (maybe that’s just me)? You politely smile and wave in social situations, hoping you get stuck in the same conversation circle as her. Like peering into the in-crowd—she seems unreachable. Then when you finally have an actual a conversation her, you realize she's been thinking the same thing about you all along. We think everyone is cooler than us. Or we believe everyone has it better than us: better marriage, job, kids, body, hair, life. This lie only keeps us further from each other. These fabricated stories ignite the comparison game instead of bringing us together; they will keep us alone. It’s time to put the stories to rest so we can finally connect with each other, the way God intended.